I cannot deny the fact that life has taught me a lot of lessons. I’m on the verge of leaving my 20’s and I figured out how certain changes become more visible when you’re way past the so-called quarter life crisis. It’s time to slow down and figure out where to go from here.
1. Keep Your Finances In Order. Gone are the days where you get to splurge on random things that don’t even matter. When you’re in your late 20’s, you ought to spend wisely. Believe me, you don’t have money to burn when you’ve worked your ass off for it. This doesn’t mean you can’t pamper yourself though. In fact, you will want to reward yourself more for a job well done. A glass of wine or a bottle of vodka every now and then won’t hurt.
2. Spend More Time Alone. I don’t know about you but I have these episodes where I just want to back off from the real world and crawl safely back into my own cocoon. Don’t get me wrong, spending time with your good old friends can be therapeutic but there are times when you just have to slow down and enjoy the moment alone. You have got to contemplate and learn to stand on your own. Trust me, you need a backbone to survive this decade.
3. Stop Comparing Yourself With Other People. It’s important to be comfortable with who you really are. You can’t keep those old rivalries forever, you know. Get rid of the idea that you need to compete with others to prove that you’re better than them. It will just burn you out, so why bother? Focus on your goals and dreams. Climb the ladder of success slowly but surely. Don’t let other people rain on your parade. It’s your life, and you need to keep in mind that you are your only competition.
4. Quality Over Quantity. You don’t need a lot of friends to get by. Sure, it’s fun to have them around but you need to know who will be there for you through thick and thin – once you have figured this out, treasure these friends because they sure are for keeps. A decade from now, it’s them you will be having dinner with. It’s time to let go of the people who bring you down. You need to grow and you won’t thrive if they are still around.
5. Drink Without Feeling Guilty. Bring out the cocktails. The money you’re spending is yours, so who cares? Drink and be merry for tomorrow you shall toil. Need I say more? Come on, we all know that a little bit of alcohol every now and then can be very therapeutic.
6. Get A Queen-Sized Bed. You’re in your late 20’s for God’s sake! You need to have a queen-sized bed, not the single ones you’ve slept on in college dormitories. This will mark your early success in life. This will become the symbol of your independence. It will be a reminder of how hard you have worked your way out of school and how awesome you will be in the years to come. Plus, it’s way more comfortable! So, yes. Living an independent life has its perks.
7. Don’t Ever Depend On Anybody. The most important lesson I have ever learned in life is to never depend on anyone but myself. When the going gets tough, all you will ever need and have is yourself – yourself and no one else. (And I am saying / writing this with full conviction.)